The act of role-play dips in and out of fashion but never disappears. Kink and role-play are synonymous with the latter serving to deepen and add realism to the fetishist’s fantasy, whatever their kink.
In my experience, the most popular roleplay that Slaves have requested over the years include; Head Mistress and unruly student that needs their behaviour correcting, The Bitchy Boss who insists upon pushing her useless employee into kinky and at times pain-soaked scenarios to keep their job, and the angry wife, who is out to get her revenge on her cheating husband.
At the core of these fantasies is a hint of a justification for punishment. Rather than take punishment for the sake of it, the sub often feels a certain act would warrant such punishment and ensure they get their just desserts. It’s a way of exploring different mindsets, feelings and consequences as well as the added thrill that the sub doesn’t know what might happen next! The sub sees themself in the scenario where the female has the upper hand. He knows in these scenarios that he must be punished and accept his fate or there will be greater consequences, so he must obey, or face the music!
However, as with everything in life, the role-plays requested have transformed and evolved allowing for more variety, improv and reflecting a modern era. For example, scenarios involving verbal cuckolding have become more common. The sub will present some information about his wife or girlfriend and her penchant for men with bigger, better manhoods, and who are more adept at satisfying her every need. It’s scandalous fun taunting a subby about what his Missus is probably up to while he prances around in a G-string and tutu and with a big, black, rubber dildo hanging out of his mouth!
The desire for humiliation is more alive than it’s ever been and a deep-seated need for the slave to be humbled to the lowest depths is prevalent.
It’s a fascinating journey to witness how the need for humiliation can vary from pseudo-work-related contexts through to psychological warfare, which can often seep into more realistic areas of life and hit close to home.
Submissive men do seem to possess a fascination with pinching panties and this is a mild but well-requested scenario, in which they are caught red-handed and fail to talk their way out of it. This begins and ends in all kinds of sublime ways from corporal punishment through to threat of exposure. The kinks may be similar but the results and context are always layered and nuanced. Subs are rarely inspired by film or media, often it’s the everyday scenarios and contexts that get their creative minds buzzing and their juices flowing. It’s the everyday mundane experience that they encounter and ache to see transformed into something decadent, boundary-pushing and exhilarating. Feeling the banal transmogrify into the surreal and become a trippy, dopamine-soaked kink fest wins over more manufactured scenarios every time. That’s what a skilled domme does, she takes something very normal, tedious in fact and uses her imagination, wit and talents to create something beautiful and mind-altering. She is the ultimate alchemist and not only transforms an idea or concept but also the sub’s mindset and aura. Like a magician, she weaves her magic causing an explosion of endorphins to rush around the slave’s mind and body like the chemical equivalent of Jenson Button in a McLaren.
With this in mind, it’s no wonder that BDSM can be just like a drug. It trickles into every cell of the body and its essence can be all-consuming, altering and exquisite. It can be wondrous, stimulating and life-enhancing. Just like anything addictive, it’s best not consumed every single day. That weekly or monthly treat is always so much sweeter when it’s a reward. Having said that, the odd binge can feel very indulgent and naughty, so long as it doesn’t impact other areas of life, so on occasion, enjoy those blowouts where you see a domme twice in a week, buy all her content and have the kinkfest to end all kinkfests! Once it’s all out of your system, practise some self-care and let the urge build up again until the anticipation is as sweet as the first time you tasted a tasty dessert.
What’s your favourite role play and how often do you indulge?
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