Is BDSM Sacred?

Is BDSM Sacred?

A Sacred Rite:

BDSM is considered an art form by some, a taboo by others, but what many may not realise is that it can also be a sacred rite which carries an alchemical force.

Before the practice, the dominant and the submissive exchange oaths, a verbal agreement of what will and won’t occur in a safe space. This ensures the energy transference that is likely to happen remains beneficial to both parties, and the interweaving dance which ensues remains grounded in consent.

Often, energy is charged prior to the performance, whether you are aware of it, or not. Words may be whispered, uttered softly, or declared loudly, setting the scene.

Picture the classic inspection of the submissive. She walks around him in a circle, inspecting his being. This is often instinctual and casts a circle of energy around the play space, protecting it from negative interference and raising the energetic field of the individuals and the space around them.

Powerful Lessons:

Sometimes, slave contracts are introduced, a binding agreement of trust, an act of devotion on the submissive’s part to serve and obey. They are not that dissimilar to soul contracts, which some Shamans and other branches of Spiritualism believe are agreements made between souls before we are born. The theory suggests that we will play different roles in our lifetime, which may lead to epiphany moments, great lessons, and wisdom. Some lessons may be painful, at times – unbearable even. Yet the greatest spiritual growth doesn’t happen when chanting in a field; it happens during those dark hours, when all seems lost, moments when only a tiny spark inside keeps you going, until the lesson is completed and embodied fully. Then, you are ready to shine a lantern for others and light their way in the dark.

In BDSM, pain play is often included. Not only does this act release endorphins in the submissive, but it can be used as a tool for discipline, and the Mistress or Master can teach their eager pupil, correct their behaviour and bestow them with the gift of knowledge. Without pain, we would struggle to truly appreciate and understand the beauty of the world and the true gift of pleasure. They must work in harmony, an exquisite symphony where both ends of the spectrum are necessary. Lessons often arrive in the most unusual gift packaging.

Connection:

Humans are social creatures and have evolved to connect with others, a pastime that is not as easy for some in the digital age. As a rule of thumb, men have more challenges when it comes to connecting emotionally, as sectors of society dictate that it’s a weakness for men to show emotion, and of course, we should not share our fears with just anyone. Once a submissive has knelt before you, submitted and handed over their power, it can often connect them to the repressed feelings within and allow them, for a short time, to reconnect with their voice. Whilst this is not a replacement for traditional therapy, it can be therapeutic for those seeking to enhance their lives, rather than treat serious medical issues.

Spells:

The words which are cast in a session carry great power. This is spell work, because words are spells, but what is important is the intent behind them. For example, if you call a slave, “a filthy pig,” during consensual play, it can be a way to allow your slave to experiment with different feelings and your words will land as intended, creating either a playful or emotionally charged and intense encounter. If you say these words in malice, the effect is different and does not bear well for the speaker. What you give out, you shall receive, so it’s advised to keep your intentions positive and let the flame in your heart dance playfully in any encounters, even when a more serious or dramatic mood is required.

Grounding

Aftercare is not always required by the slave, but when it is carried out, it’s not only an act of care but serves as a powerful form of grounding for the submissive and sometimes the Mistress. It can shift the dynamic from a realm of fantasy, gently back to reality and provides a sense of comfort, particularly if the session has been intense.

How does BDSM make you feel?

Is it a sacred act for you, a mental release, or just light-hearted fun?