Dommes Have Limits Too

If you are new to the femdom scene you might wonder what kink limits are. They are simply things that are off limits, that you definitely wouldn’t do or consider and these vary for everyone. You might even be under the false impression that limits are just for subs. Allow me to enlighten you – limits are for dommes too! A worthy sub will seek to find out what these are and respect them without trying to push boundaries or becoming a text bore and asking repeatedly. 

There are some things I get asked for frequently by newcomers who are a bit wet behind the ears, and I feel my hackles rising and that familiar flicker of annoyance begin to ignite. I decided that instead of becoming irritable and repeating myself for the 50,000th time, I will simply write this blog and forward it to any culprits that fall into the category of asking for things that aren’t on my menu of kinky delights. 

All dommes will have different limits, so check with each domme you visit or intend to visit. Checking her profile on her website first goes a long way! Ask questions once you’ve researched thoroughly.  Just because Domme X from Twerton Passey loves shoving golf clubs up your anal cavity or performing needlework on your japseye, that doesn’t mean every domme does, so take heed and be open to listening and obeying, respectfully. 

My limits include the above, just in case you were wondering, although I might consider a badminton racket! Joking aside, these are some of the things I do NOT do:

Scat, needles, blood, mutilation, illegal or illegally themed roleplays or activities. Then there are the ones that some newcomers don’t feel are extreme but they are for me and when I get asked for them I grimace, my stomach churns and my throat burns from bile as I throw up in my mouth a little bit.  Two of these are – pussy and arse worship. In fact, someone sent me their ‘kink list’ this morning which consisted of pussy and arse worship and ‘some verbal.’ Now, in my world, that is not a kink session, that’s a chancer trying to get sexual with you by attempting to pass himself off as a slave or kinkster.

“Oh but I want to please you Mistress!” 

Sorry bitch but trying to overstep my boundaries does not please me.  I am now repulsed and I’m not going to punish you, I’m simply going to ignore you – forever. Hope that’s your fetish too!

You know what really pleases me? 

Obedience, subservience, gifts. Restraining a sub, with his wrists cuffed and clipped behind his back, a ballgag in his mouth to prevent his pitiful pleas. A sub who entertains me, will engage in roleplay or games of humiliation, will dress for me, or wear a hood, who genuinely enjoys BDSM and doesn’t desperately try to seek out some kind of loophole for his own gratification. 

The closest you will ever get to enjoying the lady garden is licking the chuff of my blowup sex doll Jizelle, or tonguing the fleshlight you’ve just exploded into so you can guzzle down the contents.

Limits aren’t just about activities either. They are about respecting any boundary a Mistress has put in place. For example, she may not offer outcalls, see slaves or answer messages outside of her advertised hours. Repeat offenders asking the same questions get tiresome very quickly.

Remember your place, and that’s where the kinky magic happens. Your Mistress always knows best!