BDSM Versus Fetish

Whilst many Subs have fetishes not all fetishists are devout Subs. They may have some Submissive tendencies and enjoy power play but may be not be into the more extreme side of BDSM and domination.

BDSM stands for Bondage and Sadomasichism whereas a fetish is the fixation for a sexual act, concept, theme or object.

Part of being a Mistress is finding out what makes your Sub tick and whether they are a follower of BDSM, a submissive, a fetishist or a combination of the three. For example, Harry might be into being tied and whipped, but he may not necessarily enjoy being talked down to and verbally abused. Being told that his ‘shrivelled penis is pathetic’ may turn him off completely whereas Percy may absolutely love having his appendage and intelligence mocked, but may completely loathe having pain administered.

There isn’t a one size fits all rule, and there is no ‘neat box’ that anyone fits into. There is a whole array of weird and wonderful fetishes, submissives and pain sluts out there that all enjoy a different variety of things. For some it’s pain, for others verbal humiliation and abuse is a turn on, and then others may just enjoy indulging their fetish for say ‘feet’, cross dressing or strap-on play.

I always encourage my Subs to be upfront and vocal about their likes and limits before the session so I can get the best possibly idea of how I would like the session to run.  The key to a great session is communication and understanding. Without this it is very easy  for things to go wrong.

I’ve heard some pretty crazy stories from Subs who have ended up in dodgy situations.

One client went to see a domme in her thirties for mild ball busting. He turned up and a 50 year old woman opened the door, grabbed him by the scruff of the neck, drop kicked him to the ground and then kicked him repeatedly in the balls. What the domme didn’t understand was that this guy wasn’t into full on BDSM, he just had a mild ball busting fetish! The minute he got up he scarpered and she lost not only the booking but a good client!

Teddy Bear Safeword

Another of my regulars went to a girl who restrained him securely, then continued beating him way after he asked her to stop. For someone heavily into BDSM this may be a dream come true, but without a safe word it’s a pretty dodgy game!

And finally another Sub of mine was tied up by two dommes. He was a first timer and didn’t know what to expect. A gimp was then brought through and the Sub was coerced into performing a sex act on the other guy which lets say led to a fair bit of emotional scarring! Tt was a year before he couldn’t even consider visiting a domme again.

BDSM Safeword Meme

Whether BDSM or fetish is your preference and whether you are Submissive or not – communication is key! A domme may try to form assumptions from limited information you give her, so being as specific as possible is always recommended to ensure your experience is the best it can be!

Mistress Kaz

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